Bachelor alum Rachael Kirkconnell is opening up about her intercourse life — or, lack thereof.
“I really feel like a virgin once more,” Kirkconnell, 29, shared on the October 16 episode of the “Additional Soiled” podcast. “I haven’t had intercourse method longer than you assume. It’s been years.”
Kirkconnell, who cut up from former Bachelor Matt James in January, defined to host Hallie Batchelder that after going so lengthy with none bodily intimacy, she doesn’t wish to simply “give it as much as anybody.” As an alternative, she desires to make sure that her subsequent sexual encounter will likely be “unimaginable.”
“I feel that’s why I’m a lover woman,” she continued. “As a result of I really feel like how we felt after we have been, like, in highschool. I’m not going to say everybody felt like this, however you understand how everybody simply makes dropping your virginity such an enormous deal? And it’s like, ‘Lose it to somebody particular?’ That’s how I really feel. I’m like, ‘I can’t simply give it as much as simply anybody.’ I would like it to be particular.”
Kirkconnell and James, 33, known as it quits earlier this yr after 4 years of courting. The twosome met throughout season 25 of The Bachelor, which aired in 2021. After James introduced the breakup through Instagram, Kirkconnell claimed days later that her now-ex shared the submit simply three hours after he broke up together with her whereas they have been on trip in Tokyo.
“I feel that I’ve come to the conclusion that quite a lot of it wasn’t me, or my fault or my downside,” Kirkconnell mentioned whereas sharing her aspect of the story on a January episode of the “Name Her Daddy” podcast. “And I do assume it helped that I had that dialog with him and I heard these issues from him. However even when I hadn’t, I feel that’s so essential to acknowledge it for your self, like, ‘It wasn’t totally me. It wasn’t 1,000 % utterly my fault.’”
Whereas showing on “Additional Soiled,” Kirkconnell revealed she’s been “chronically single” since she and James known as it quits and hasn’t “been on a single date,” or is she on any courting apps. Whereas she famous that she isn’t “judging” anybody who chooses to search for love on-line, she isn’t positive it could “work” for her.
Kirkconnell additionally shared that she looks like she may very well be demisexual. When Batchelder learn the definition of demisexual as “a sexual orientation the place an individual experiences sexual attraction solely after forming a robust emotional bond with one other particular person,” Kirkconnell replied, “I feel that’s me.”
“I can say, ‘Wow, that particular person is basically enticing.’ I clearly discover them actually enticing, I feel they’re actually scorching, however I don’t care after that, trigger they may nonetheless be like a horrible particular person or have the worst character ever, and that might make me not wish to sleep with them as a result of that completely turns me off,” she defined. “I suppose their attraction can solely get to this point for me. Perhaps that’s my downside, I don’t know.”
Rachael Kirkconnell isn’t placing any strain on a brand new relationship following her cut up from Matt James. “I’m scared for the longer term typically. Generally I really feel fairly hopeless. I don’t know if my particular person’s on the market. I don’t know what any of that appears like. However I additionally am actually having fun with my independence,” Kirkconnell, 28, shared […]
Kirkconnell then recommended that “everybody” be demisexual because it looks as if “such a wholesome factor to do.” When Batchelder requested her if she was additionally drawn to girls, Kirkconnell mentioned, “I don’t assume so, I don’t know,” however identified, “It’s all a spectrum, isn’t it?”
Whereas not solely positive about her gender desire, she burdened how relatable demisexuality’s philosophy of “having an emotional connection” with somebody earlier than having intercourse is for her.
“t don’t assume I might go dwelling with anybody,” she mentioned. “I’ve to really feel secure and cozy with them and be emotionally invested a minimum of in a method that I might see us courting or I a minimum of have a crush on them … It’s not a bodily attraction, I suppose.”
